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Wednesday, November 29, 2006

The Bright (Bride) Side!

Weddings are always fun though most of my friends say that they are more so when you belong to the dulhewala's side. The logic? More fun, less work. In reply to their kaamchor wala logic all I can say is 'Bandar kya jaane adrak ka swad'. The crude translation of the one liner would be something like: 'Until you experience something, you won't know whether it's good or bad or heavenly or hell-like'. And more literally ' How is the monkey to know the taste of ginger' Nah, socho mat, it doesn't make sense.

So, anyway, getting back to the less work for the groom's side funda, there is less work involved for the groom's side because weddings in India have traditionally been and still are held at the bride's home with her father taking on the entire organizational and financial responsibilities. The preparations start months in advance with planning for the wedding hall, decorators, caterers getting underway not to forget the most cliched and overhyped first night room in a 5 star hotel.

When I fondly think of the weddings that I have been a part of- of cousins and my real brother's *digress alert* I never understood the term real brother and real sister. I mean my cousins are also all real, they walk and talk like normal people and I love them a lot too, I think I should think of a better word differentiator than 'real'. Chalo, sochna shuru karti hoon, after writing this post ;) *digressing over*

Going back to the weddings---when I reminisce about the weddings that I have been a part of somehow the weddings of my sisters and friend's sisters just stand out in memory. Countless memories flood my tiny brain and I suddenly feel elated without any reason.

Just yesterday I was remembering my best friend's sister's wedding. It was in February when the air is fragrant with the onset of spring, the most romantic month in Ahmedabad, IMHO. We started the preparations by helping out with cleaning the entire house. It was quite a task but the entire weekend went by in a daze with seven girls all chirping and giggling and making fun of the always dreamy bride to be. We were rewarded with trip to the best pizza place in town topped with movie tickets to a hit flick by the friend's dad who couldn't recognize his own house when he came back from a business trip. Now that says tons about auntyji's housekeeping capabilities but that could be a post for another time ;)

Then came the fun part- Shopping, nooo SHOPPINGGGGGG :) Ya, that's more like how we felt. What started with serious stuff like heavy jewellery and saris quickly turned into a fun trip when we stopped by the bangle store and the lingerie store. Ahaaaa, this was the chance to get our GK up- (Na jaane kab kaam aa jaaye!) GK is General Knowledge yaar. While we picked out the most raunchy lingerie for the blushing bride to be, all the elder women who accompanied us (Haaye yeh na insaafi, Unko Yaha BHI aana tha), said Shhhhh Shhhhh with amazing consistency while we couldn't stop our loud laughs.

When the wedding day drew close, from almost a week in advance we all camped at the friends place- cooking fun stuff, making mixed tapes for the ladies sangeet, booking the mehendi girl and generally fooling around having fun.

On the wedding day, it was such a crazy scene with everyone scurrying around making sure everything was perfect. While we dressed up in our best cholis and saris, did the last minute running around (where the hell were the two rose garland's for the bride and groom), and rushed into the waiting car that whisked us to the wedding venue, everyone had just one thing in common- a big smile playing on their lips.

The wedding in itself was a huge success. While we pranced around in our finery playing the sexy bridemaids to the hilt and innocently flirting with the hot guys in sherwanis from the groom's side- the bride and the groom exchanged vows of togetherness for life. Amidst colorful flowers, sumptuous food, soulstirring music, and loud firecrackers when we hugged the bride good bye, there was just one thought in everyone's mind- Cheers to their blissful wedded life and Cheers to weddings and all the work associated with them- afterall that's not work, that's fun all the way.

Music: Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
Mood: Nostalgic


Blogger priya said...

That was a beautiful mehendi picture.
Its always fun to be at weddings and its one time to see all your family, friends and well wishers.

4:54 PM  
Blogger KK said...

Its so much fun at wedding irrespective of whether we are from the brides' side or the groom's side... There's so much contrast in marriage styles between north and south india

5:09 PM  
Blogger Sudipta Chatterjee said...

Well, I have attended weddings from both sides, and I always end up being the in-charge kind of person in these. And yes, I really hate the giggling bunches of girls who do nothing but just keep looking at you and suddenly smiling and doing private jokes. But yes... I liked the description of the entire wedding: keep these coming!

7:57 PM  
Blogger PSV said...

post is nice..will comment laterz abhi sochne ka time nahi hai...bizee bizee...vaise bhee u not gonna write for next few weeks now so i will come bac to comment here..hehe

5:02 AM  
Blogger Twisted DNA said...

I am attending a wedding right now. Shopping is the part I hate most :) We have been shopping for about a week now and there is no end in sight (The end is distinctly in sight for my bank account though)

How much ever I whine, I agree that at the end weddings are a lot of fun, especially for all the relatives that gather.

8:56 AM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

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2:34 PM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

priya---> i loved the pic too :)

kk---> yep I agree, i have been to one south indian wedding and that was pretty different i agree, it was much simpler but the food was awesome!!

sudipta---> in charge person? haaan i know your types, you guys specialize in delegating work, haina ;) arre, you don't like giggling gals? what if one of them approaches you with some mithai and a sweet smile, would you like that? :D

psv---> and the award for best sarcastic comment goes to psvji :)

twisted dna---> lol for your bank wala comment! hope you are having loads of fun at the wedding :)

2:35 PM  
Blogger Khushi said...

ah.. its so much fun to get dressed up and run around in the marriage hall... the glitter, glamour around marriage yes yes... finding a guy for marriage... no no ;)

PS: first time here... happy blogging :)

10:55 PM  
Blogger Inder said...

weddings are indeed fun. particularly the north indian weddings...

5:31 AM  
Blogger Alan said...

Very interesting and detailed post. I enjoyed reading it.

9:16 AM  
Blogger Sudipta Chatterjee said...

Oh!! Mithai and sweet smile? I'm all for that :D

Unfortunately, rarely do people venture to do that... either because it is either me telling them where to get the mithai, or worse still, I keep on and endless session of leg-pulling with such folks. So they do approach me with sweet and mischievous smiles, but somehow I am wary of them and they are of me --- you never know who pulls a fast one when :)

4:31 PM  
Blogger Sudipta Chatterjee said...

You've been tagged!!

12:34 AM  
Blogger Rai said...

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2:12 AM  
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2:15 AM  
Blogger Rai said...

Lovely one. I have attended weddings of my uncles and other distant relatives, so I know what it's like. I love the fun, the silly rituals to the embarrasment of the couple ... I still remember a particular incident that happend in my maternal uncle's wedding. It was during the ritual, what we Bengalis call SUBHO DRISTI ( the first time when the couple are supposed to look at each other). You can imagine the scene if I tell you it was an arranged marriage. It was only after 7 to 8 attempts that my shy aunt succeded in having a full look at my uncle. It was hilarious ... and we laughed our heart out at her expense:-)

I am waiting for my friends weddings, quite anxious so as to say:-)

2:16 AM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

khushi---> thanks for stopping by. btw, i'm curious, why no-no for finding a guy for marriage? haven't you heard about the quintessential shaadi ka laddoo? jo khaaye woh bhi pachtaaye, jo na khaaye woh bhi pachtaaye ;)

inder---> yep :)

alan---> thanks! :)

sudipta---> hmmm, i've heard that people who are most wary of other people pulling a fast one at them are themselves the sort of people who excel at this sort of a thing ;) jk, btw, will take up your tag soon.

rai---> you described it so vividly, i could almost see the shyness on the bride's face :) all weddings have their own fun quotient, have yet to attend a bengali wedding though, hopefully will do so someday.

7:59 PM  
Blogger Bhuvanesh said...

wow.. this one was good to read.. i know north indian weddings are particularly fun-filled and spread over days of merry-making.. this post really felt gud to read...

11:17 PM  
Blogger The Lonely Traveller said...

Lovely post. It reminds me of all those Dulhan, Shaadi and Vidai feature films ;-) that I have gormandized during my teens.

The closest I can ever(coz I am a Mallu.. *wink, a very fluent Hindi speaking one), or have come to being a part of a lavish Northie Wedding was when one of my my Punjabi friend's sis got married.
It was awesome.
Food was good... the music was good... And to top it all; the galz were great...


7:08 AM  
Blogger sreicanth said...

ur tag finally done.....:)

12:26 PM  
Blogger artnavy said...

Great to shop for weddings and did you see Vivah- so syruppy sweet I cannot tell you

8:14 PM  
Blogger Strider said...

Its weddings left right and center

A friend of mine got married recently.
Two of my colleagues are getting married in the near future.
dosto ke didiyo ke liye rishte aa rahe hai!!
and now this!

marraige is in the air or wat?? :P

Never been to a northie wedding :(... apne yaha thoda sombre hota hai

1:19 AM  
Blogger Lavender said...

That was a very vivid description of the good time u had...plus I loved the pic you initiated the post with.

5:18 AM  
Blogger Orchid said...

Weddings are fun!! However, like somebody else already commented south indian weddings have fewer bells and whistles than the north Indian weddings, sad i don't get to attend north Indian weddings!

11:19 AM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

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12:30 PM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

bhuvanesh---> thanks :)

lonely traveler---> good that you could enjoy a typical punjabi wedding. did you try to sneak into the ladies sangeet to see the galz?! ;)

sreicanth---> hope you enjoyed doing the tag, will comment soon on your choices.

artnavy---> i've avoided vivah. something tells me it is maine pyaar kiya + hum aapke hai kaun of 2006 :) BTW, HAHK i had totally loved :p

strider---> looks like it is, cheers to that!

Lifelover's middle of the comments thought

Two bloggers with names of flowers have commented for the first time on this blog, aaj to opinionated solutions mehek raha hai ;)


lavender---> yep, i thought it was a gorgeous pic too. hey thanks for stopping by!

orchid---> hope you get to attend a northie one soon and yeah, thanks for stopping by!

5:36 PM  
Blogger Di said...

I too am one of those who has never attended a northie wedding to date.. :( but ur right wen u say its more fun on the bride's side...theres so much fun stuff to do!! :D

10:12 PM  
Anonymous aditi said...

hey good article goo description about the whole wedding also. now wedding season is going on in ahmedabad. we have one to attend every weekend imagine! cya

9:02 AM  
Blogger Chitrangada said...

Fantastic write up wid pics ...n in fact i m prep myself for frens marriage :D

i enjoyed ur fren's sis marriage :)

10:03 PM  
Blogger Canary said...

wedding are so much fun.. esp the late night singing and dancing :P
lovely blog :)

1:17 AM  
Blogger itchingtowrite said...

nice pic. and u had fun !!

1:58 AM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

di---> you bet :D

aditi---> hey buddy, good to see you online. heyyy i feel so left out during the wedding season yaar. yaha pe i don't have even a single wedding to attend :( next year pakka i'll be there and hope there are loads of weddings to attend, one maybe yours who knows ;)

chitrangada---> friend's marriage? how fun!! hope you have a fantastic time there and yeah i did enjoy the particular wedding i wrote about.

canary---> thanks :) late nights are the best during weddings when all you do is dance, joke around and flirt with the guys. Aah now that's what I call fun :), thanks for stopping by!

itchingtowrite---> i loved the pic too and yep i did have lots of fun :)

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Gujraatan..baaahut comments ikatthey kar liye chalo ab agla post likhte hain... :-)

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