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Tuesday, February 13, 2007

Of Taj Mahal Dreams and Chocolates

Seems like 'tis the season of V day posts, humne bhi likh di apne dil ki baat ;)

The root of the trouble AND The height of being cliched

Just yesterday, while browsing through Time magazine, I came across an ad from Incredible India. A black and white picture of Taj Mahal was in the background and the text read: "And to think that these days men get away with giving chocolates and flowers."

Samjhe? If you are really a fan of tube lights, let me explain the profound meaning of this punch-line (*Complete Honesty and Digress Alert- As proud as I am for my agile brain, it shuts down rather mercilessly after midnight and at such challenging times, it is a struggle to decipher witty one-liners. This realization came one night when as a teenager, I was stuck forever on a particular paragraph from a really interesting Mills & Boons novel (ahem) and even this fluff refused to enter my tiny brain* Alert over)

So, for those of you out there who share this personality trait, let me elucidate. This ad simply conveys that these days men get away with just gifting flowers and chocolates to their lady love while in the good old days, the Mughal Emperor- Shahjahan, poor guy, had to build a monument to prove his love for his girl.

This ad really got me thinking. Ab maante hai ki my beauty cannot be compared to that of Mumtaz mahal. Neither am I hoping for a Shahjahan like dude to construct a Taj Mahal for me (Shheeeshh Yaar, Taj Mahal usne apni GF/wife ke marne par banaya tha!).

just feel that love is such a deep feeling and every woman is so unique, then why give the same gift to all the ladies in this world? And, I really like to think that just like every woman, I have a right to receiving a thoughtful gift from the man who proclaims, 'Tum to meri zindagi ho'.

Anyway, leave the Taj Mahal khwab aside, but, chocolates and flowers to express love to the most important woman in your world? It's very cliched, more like cliched raised to the power of lots of power.

Now, don't get me wrong guys and please don't sulk. I am not an Ehsaan Faraamosh kinda girl. And I love, noo LOVE, noooooo lurveeeeee chocolates. And I do appreciate when guys try hard enough. But, chocolates and flowers? Dude, you really need to take a class on 'The use of creativity in romantic expression 101'.

Maybe something that is less expensive than the chocolates+flowers+card put together will do the trick. Maybe it won't. But it has to be something really reallllllly customized---something that just screams 'YOU are the one' to the woman who is THE one for you. Something that is one of a kind, just like the woman that you love. Something that is just perfect---for her.

Work at it guys, it's definitely easier than building a Taj Mahal and you will be rewarded.

And gals, badi khush ho ke baithi ho sab ki sab. There is something that you all have to do also. What? Arre get ready yaar, wear your best smile and your sexy dress---your man is going to ring the door bell very soon. And hey, don't rush to empty the vase, he's not getting you flowers this time ;)

Music: We Have All the Time in the World - Louis Armstrong AND Chupke Chupke - Ghulam Ali (playing one after the other continously, quite a concoction it's created in my head)
Mood: Optimistic


Blogger Sudipta Chatterjee said...


Madam, Shah Jahan made the Taj Mahal to the memory of his dead wife. I would prefer a bunch of cliched chocolates and cards to a living girlfriend than building a Taj to my dead wife. Ab andaz apna apna ;)

BTW, if chocolates and flowers seem cliched to you, don't you think a solemn blog post will be better? Check out http://www.suyogdeshpande.net/blog The first post should give you a good idea ;)

6:29 PM  
Blogger Di said...

arre yaar...expectations utinii bhi mat badaao hum bechare ladkiyon ki :(.....chocs aur phool expect karna hi badi baat hain..and that too is done by guys after their "expert" friends suggest it to them.. :-/

8:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You too...I mean were all the forwards, ads, screen savers and what not...not enough to talk about valentine day... arre yaar there are people in this world for whom this day just passes by without any gifts and flowers by their loved ones...when on the same day people tell her she looks like KH (this one has got to my head gal...I am really easy to please ;))
anyways I agree with you on this one... if he by any tini-miny chance gets me a chocolate I will have to try really hard to show my pleasure. Cards...flowers and chocolates AND JEWELLERY...are the most thoughtless gifts to give right now. :)

Happy Valentines day...hope you get something specialy for you :)

11:04 PM  
Blogger Strider said...

ye suniye aap:

"ham bhi jaanam aapke liye tajmahal banayenge...
ham bhi jaanam aapke liye tajmahal banayenge...
ek cup subah aur ek cup shaam ko pilayenge" :-P

happy val day!

12:48 AM  
Blogger Sakshi said...

What is dis obsession about this god forsaken Valentine day????

Btw- Louis Armstrong's "we have all the time" is an awesome choice for the day :)

7:43 AM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

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10:22 AM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

sudipta---> theek kaha janaab, andaaz apna apna ;) and yes, I did check out sujog's post on Vday and you are right, its a winner all the way :) thanks for sharing..and have a fabulous V day!

di---> sach kaha yaar, par i was just sharing my thoughts ab agar isse koi expectations samajh kar inspire ho jaaye to its good for the entire female community ;) haina? have a great V day!

N---> i mean ms. KH, yes unfortunately only gals think that chocos and flowers are cliched, guys think it is a pretty darn cool thing they have done ;) Happy V day to you as well, hope you have a fantastic day!!

strider---> wah wah, kya shayari likhi hai aapne, aasman se zameen par laane ke liye ek aapki shayari hi kaafi hai :p hehe, here's hoping you have a rocking V day!

sakshi---> yes he has got some style and this song just makes you 'feel' what he is trying to convey :) Have a wonderful V day!

10:23 AM  
Blogger itchingtowrite said...

the perfect gift seems so difficult to arrive at...and every gifting occassion raises the bar for the next one

11:16 PM  
Blogger Khushi said...

ha ha ha ha, how true...
even i'm fed up of seeing people buying the cliched red dil shaped balloons, choloates and red roses... duhh!!!
nice post :)

2:32 AM  
Blogger it doesnt said...

Ahhh - now I know how you landed on my blog hehehe - thankoos Sudipta. Sigh to your question:

‘Will you be like this forever or do you get romantic only on V day eve’

--Aiillla, maar dalogi kya mujhe hehehe :D - aise pheelings saal mein ek hi baar aathe hain :D. Though I think my idea of perfect valentine gift for my honewaali valentine (jaane kaha hain woh!) would be on a dinner on a sailboat overlooking a sunset.... oooh, I am too much :D. Need to get back to reality!

Nice post - I like the way you write, me visit often now. Plus I saw Sharmila and Rajesh Khanna somewhere on your blog... I am intrigued!


9:38 AM  
Blogger Supremus said...

The above comment is mine :)


9:39 AM  
Blogger Orchid said...

ha, ha! now you've really put the mean in trouble...I have decided to go easy on hubby...after ten yrs and a lot of gifting..it is kind of getting harder but hey thanks for the idea..I'll tell him there is still the Taj Mahal :)

Good one!

5:23 PM  
Blogger Pallavi said...

yah havent understood the hoo ha about the day as yet..all hype.

1:34 PM  
Blogger The Lonely Traveller said...

If I came to know that my Valentine(an imaginary object currently) expects a taj mahal from me, I would have said
"Janu, Shah Jahan ne to Mumtaz ko Taj Mahal diya....
Hum to thehre ek mamooli se Software Engineer...
Mahal to nahi hai.. par dil zaroor hai...
Kabool hai to bolo... warna apni saheli ka phone number dedo ;-)"
And then a Mogambo wala laugh "Muahahahahahahahahaaaa"

7:16 AM  
Blogger artnavy said...

hey that was intersting

btw i do not like being told that navy has to build a taj for me since that would mena i will have to die

and what will i do with a gift once i am dead

12:27 AM  
Blogger Daddy's Girl said...

I like this: "Arre get ready yaar, wear your best smile and your sexy dress".

I agree with the post - a little originality would be nice from time to time.

9:58 AM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

iching to write---> true true, that is why men need to always be on the look out for the 'better' gift! :)

khushi---> thanks!

supremus---> Sailing looking at the sunset, put in some warm weather (need God's help with that one!) and a bowl full of chocolate dipped strawberries and you have the perfect date!! :) btw thanks for your compliments, have fun!

orchid---> yep, good luck with that request ;)

pallavi---> yep, its crazy

lonely traveller---> lol, good one!

artnavy---> i meant shahjahan did this much, atleast do something more than the cliched choco+flowers routine...if you get the taj in that bargain, well and good :)

daddy's girl---> thanks, glad you enjoyed! originality- yep thats all we ask for :)

1:25 PM  
Blogger Bhuvanesh said...

heyy cool.. but this post seems more like a pointer to tat (unknown) someone to get u a better gift the next time rather than the usual heart-shaped balloons, flowers and chocolates tat u got this time.. is it??
but ofcourse, it pays for every guy to think differently and be original for their gal, isnt it??

9:06 AM  
Blogger Sudipta Chatterjee said...

Aare it is more than a fortnight since you last posted! Ab to kuchh naya likkho!

7:17 PM  
Blogger The Lonely Traveller said...

Hey missy 'Expect-Too-Much-At-Valentine's' ;-)
You must by now would have had a lot of 'could-be-shared' experiences in the Month of Lovers!!
We are all waitin for updates :-)

5:59 AM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

sudipta, lonely traveller---> it's been ages since i visited any blogs, it was a killer fortnight at work, but now m back and going to catch up on all those posts i missed, ciao

6:00 PM  
Blogger Canary said...

Hahaha!! interesting!
(Though Im not a believer of Valentine day and things :| )

7:43 PM  
Blogger Rai said...

!!! You are Tgged !!!

8:53 PM  
Blogger Sudipta Chatterjee said...

Arre madam, do you by any chance work at Cisco? I might be there at San Jose for the summer and need some info. Can you please drop me an email? I don't have your email id.

11:27 PM  
Blogger PSV said...

kahaan ho...likho kuch!!!!

maheenaa hogayaaaa!

12:22 PM  
Blogger Ujwal said...

rather late here. May be I wud use the tips for next yr. :)

12:28 PM  
Blogger PSV said...

zindaa ho!!!

10:31 PM  
Blogger Bhuvanesh said...

heyy u r THAT busy? even i hav got back frm the dead, if i can say tat... :)

12:26 PM  
Blogger Sakshi said...

I hope everything is alright with ay :)

5:50 PM  
Blogger Life Lover said...

canary---> thanks :)

rai---> oops, will do it soon. how soon? read my latest post to guess ;)

sudipta---> nope i don't but i know people who do. let me send you an email and you can tell me how i can help.

psv---> read my latest post for updates

ujwal---> good luck :)

psv---> haaaaaaaaaaan ji

bhuvanesh---> hehehe that's true, ab dheere dheere mein likhna shuru karti hoon, see my latest post to understand yeh sab kya ho raha hai!

sakshi---> thanks for asking, m alright, just too much work.

1:21 PM  

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