Spending VS Investing in the Big R

Today I had a very interesting conversation with S3. We were discussing ummm.. rather debating on whether it is best to work on a not very rewarding relationship or move on and invest that same energy in a new relationship.

S3 believes that a person always has his or her sixth sense to guide them away from an unrewarding relationship. So when you think you have tried enough, spent enough energy and think you are running out of passion to keep the relationship alive, walk out. It will initially take courage but once you are out of that area, first physically and later emotionally, you will feel much better about it.

I believe that every relationship is different and has a different set of challenges. You can never be completely familiar with every challenge that a relationship will throw at you. With a new person, there will be a new set of problems and probably a new set of happy moments too. When you invest a couple of years moulding and working on a relationship with one person, you are giving much more than your time- you are investing your soul into it. Do you want to walk out of it just like that?

Sometimes it can take more time for some plants to flower than other's who do in one season. Does that mean you uproot it and sow it somewhere else in the garden? What if you discover after a few growing seasons that there are no flowers yet and guess what? The garden center expert says the first place was probably better for the plant, it just needed some more time!

I feel relationships are just like that- some take longer to reward you and some really flourish in no time. I agree with S3 on one thing though- If you are with a total useless person, don't waste your time and just leave. But on second thoughts S3, don't you think we are intelligent enough not to fall for absolute jerks? ;-)

BTW the weather just got hotter making some of my colleagues and friends go all red, I being the Amdavad gal am enjoying the hot days, turn up the heater a notch up God, I am chilling down here!!